How much to give
for a wedding?
The convention by relationship, adjusted for who is coming with you and how far you travelled, an honest range with the reasoning shown.
- Weighs
- Relationship × party × travel
- Basis
- Etiquette convention
- Time to result
- ~15 seconds
- Output
- Range + reasoning
This reckoner runs as a live tool over the Aisle MCP. Connect it and your agent can call get_cash_gift_suggestion directly in ChatGPT, Claude, or Cursor, same numbers as this page.
“How much should I give as a wedding gift, close friend, attending as a couple?”
https://aisle.wedding/api/mcpHow to connect →A convention, not a rule, give what your relationship supports, and always with a card.
- On the low side
- $100
- Typical
- $125
- Generous
- $200
- For a friend, convention puts a solo, local gift around $125, the $100–$200 band most guests land in.
- Give what your relationship supports, and put it in a card with a sentence only you could write.
The figure that matters is not the average, it is what the couple spent to host you, which you are not obliged to match, and should not try to at a destination wedding. If you flew and paid for three hotel nights, your presence already cost more than any envelope; etiquette (and every couple we have asked) says scale the gift down without guilt. Give what your relationship supports, put it in a card with a sentence only you could write, and never hand over cash without one.
The going convention,
line by line.
| Your relationship | Solo | As a couple | With family |
|---|---|---|---|
| Coworker | $75 ($50–$100) | $115 ($75–$150) | $130 ($90–$175) |
| Acquaintance | $85 ($50–$110) | $130 ($75–$165) | $150 ($90–$195) |
| Friend | $125 ($100–$200) | $190 ($150–$300) | $220 ($175–$350) |
| Close friend | $200 ($150–$300) | $300 ($225–$450) | $350 ($265–$525) |
| Family | $200 ($150–$300) | $300 ($225–$450) | $350 ($265–$525) |
| Immediate family | $300 ($200–$500) | $450 ($300–$750) | $525 ($350–$875) |
Typical figure first, with the low-to-generous range in brackets, for a local wedding, outside the wedding party. If you travelled a long way to attend, scale down without guilt: etiquette counts the cost of getting there as part of your contribution. Set the travel in the tool above to see the adjusted range, and read the full etiquette, timing, group gifts, and honeymoon funds, in the gift-etiquette guide.
Modeled from 5,962 venues.
Every number in these tools is a modeled estimate, researched per venue across the Aisle marketplace and currency-normalized, not a figure pulled from booked weddings. Treat them as planning ranges and confirm with the venue.
- Data source
- Marketplace cost research
- Last refresh
- June 2026, Q2
- Next refresh
- September 2026
- Basis
- Modeled estimate
- Sample size
- 5,962 venues analyzed
- Corrections
- hello@aisle.wedding